Children
الأطفال
Children in Islam are regarded as a profound blessing and a sacred trust (amana) from Allah, an adornment of the life of this world. They embody continuity, joy, and purpose for families and communities, with the Quran encouraging believers to pray for righteous offspring, asking Allah to make them comfort to our eyes. This comprehensive article explores the multi-faceted Islamic perspective on children, drawing from Quranic revelation, Prophetic guidance, and the rich tradition of Islamic scholarship.
The Inherent Nature and Value of Children
Islam posits that every child is born in a state of fitra, an innate inclination towards the pure monotheistic faith. This fundamental concept is beautifully articulated in the Prophetic tradition: "No child is born but has the Islamic Faith, but its parents turn it into a Jew or a Christian" (Bukhari 0:0, 23:111, 23:112, 23:137, 65:297). This emphasizes the child's inherent purity and connection to Allah, suggesting that external influences, rather than original sin, divert individuals from this natural state. The comparison to animal offspring – "Do you find among their offspring a mutilated one before you mutilate them yourself?" – further stresses the perfect, untainted beginning of human life. The question about children who die young is answered with divine wisdom: "Allah knows what they would have done (were they to live)" (Bukhari 0:0, 23:135), indicating that their ultimate fate rests with Allah's infinite knowledge and justice, free from accountability for deeds they could not perform.
This intrinsic purity bestows immense value upon children. The Prophet's response to the lament of parents whose children die before puberty, promising them screening from the Hellfire, underscores the mercy and reward associated with patiently enduring such a loss. Several hadith reiterate this promise: "A Muslim whose three children die before the age of puberty will be granted Paradise by Allah due to his mercy for them" (Bukhari 23:11, 23:133). Even two children would suffice for this divine promise (Bukhari 0:0, 3:43, 23:12), highlighting the immense spiritual significance attributed to children, even in their passing. The Prophet's own tears upon seeing his grandson dying, explained as mercy which Allah has lodged in the hearts of His slaves, beautifully illustrates the natural human affection and divine compassion towards children.
Parental Responsibilities and Upbringing
The Islamic tradition places immense emphasis on the role of parents as guardians and educators of their children. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) declared, "Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges" , explicitly stating that "a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for them; a woman is a guardian of her husband's house and children and is responsible for them." This highlights the shared and distinct roles of both parents in nurturing their offspring.
The responsibility begins even before conception, with the Prophetic guidance to say, [In the name of Allah. O Allah! Protect us from Satan and also protect what you bestow upon us (i.e. the coming offspring) from Satan](4:7, 59:81, 59:92, 67:100). This supplication demonstrates a proactive approach to protecting the child's spiritual well-being from the very beginning. Furthermore, a hadith narrated by Anas bin Malik details how an angel is appointed in the womb to record the child's gender, destiny (wretched or blessed), livelihood, and age, highlighting Allah's complete knowledge and pre-ordainment (Bukhari 60:8, 6:23).
The nurturing of children extends to their spiritual and moral education. The Quran recounts Luqman's advice to his son, O my son! Join not others in worship with Allah. Verily joining others in worship with Allah is a great wrong indeed. This emphasizes the paramount importance of inculcating pure monotheism from an early age. The Prophet's own practice of giving `Abdullah bin Az-Zubair chewed date juice (tahnik) and invoking blessings upon him upon his birth (Bukhari 63:134, 63:135) demonstrates the importance of starting a child's life with blessings and wholesome influence.
Parents are also responsible for providing sustenance and care. `Umar bin Al-Khattab's generous provision to a widowed woman and her children, despite objections, exemplifies the Islamic imperative to care for vulnerable children (Bukhari 0:0, 64:203). This act showcases the communal responsibility, especially of leaders, to ensure children are not left in destitution. Similarly, the Prophet's arrangement for Jabir to marry a matron to care for his younger sisters (Bukhari 0:0, 43:21) illustrates practical considerations for childcare when a parent is absent.
Protection and Compassion for the Young
Islam's commitment to children is deeply rooted in principles of protection, compassion, and justice. The historical context reveals the Prophet's strong condemnation of practices prevalent in pre-Islamic Arabia, such as infanticide. This is directly addressed in the pledge of allegiance where companions vowed "Not to kill your children" . The severity of such an act is further underscored in the hadith where killing one's child out of fear of them sharing meals is ranked among the gravest sins, second only to associating partners with Allah . The Quran itself condemns those who have killed their children from folly without knowledge.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) consistently demonstrated immense tenderness and consideration for children. His practice of shortening congregational prayers when he heard a child crying (Bukhari 10:103, 10:104, 10:105, 10:259) is a powerful testament to his compassion for mothers and their children. He understood the distress a mother might feel and prioritized their ease, demonstrating that even spiritual acts of worship should accommodate the realities of family life. Furthermore, when children urinated on his garments, he simply asked for water to be sprinkled over the soiled place, not a full wash (Bukhari 4:88, 4:89), indicating a gentle approach to children's natural bodily functions.
The prohibition against killing women and children in warfare (Bukhari 56:223, 56:224) further highlights Islam's protective stance. While there's a nuanced hadith about incidental harm during night raids where the Prophet said, "They (i.e. women and children) are from them (i.e. pagans)" (Bukhari 56:221, 56:222), this is generally understood as acknowledging the reality of warfare, not an endorsement of deliberate targeting. The overarching principle is the protection of non-combatants, especially children.
Moreover, the Prophet taught believers to safeguard children from unseen harms. He advised, "When night falls (or it is evening), keep your children close to you for the devils spread out at that time" (Bukhari 59:112, 59:89). This counsel emphasizes both physical and spiritual protection, encouraging awareness of potential dangers, both seen and unseen, and resorting to Allah's name for protection.
Legal and Social Dimensions
The legal framework of Islam addresses various aspects related to children, from inheritance to marital issues. The inheritance rights of children, particularly the established share of a son being twice that of a daughter , reflect Allah's specific decree, superseding pre-Islamic practices where "children used to inherit all the property but the parents used to inherit only through a will" . This divine legislation ensures a structured and just distribution of wealth.
In cases of dispute, such as the ownership of a child, the Islamic tradition offers profound wisdom. The story of David and Solomon illustrates this. David initially awarded the child to the elder woman, but Solomon, with superior insight, proposed to cut the child in two. The younger woman's outcry, "May Allah be merciful to you! Don't do that, for it is her (i.e. the other lady's) child!" (Bukhari 0:0, 60:98), revealed her true maternal affection, leading Solomon to rightly assign the child to her. This narrative underscores the importance of deep insight and compassion in judicial rulings involving children.
The protection of the unborn child is also evident. In a case where a woman caused another to abort by hitting her with a stone, the Prophet (PBUH) "judged that the victim be given either a slave or a female slave (as blood-money)" . This ruling establishes the legal recognition of the unborn child's life and the punitive consequences for causing its loss, even before full development.
The Prophetic Sunnah also clarifies situations related to children's lineage. The hadith concerning the resemblance of a child to its parents based on whose discharge precedes the other (Bukhari 60:3, 60:4, 63:163, 65:7) provides a biological explanation rooted in early Islamic thought, emphasizing the natural processes of conception. In cases of mula'ana (mutual imprecation), where a husband denies paternity, the Prophet ruled that "the child would be for the mother" , highlighting the mother's right to the child and ensuring the child is not left without an acknowledged parent.
Children as a Test and Source of Spiritual Reward
While children are seen as a blessing and a source of joy, the Quran also gently reminds believers that [your properties and your children are but a trial](8:28, 64:15). This perspective encourages a balanced outlook, ensuring that the love for children does not overshadow one's devotion to Allah or lead to sin. The hadith about a man's afflictions concerning his wife and children being expiated by prayers and charity subtly reinforces the idea of family life as a continuous journey of piety and seeking Allah's pleasure.
Conversely, children can also be a tremendous source of spiritual reward. The hadith about those who lose children before puberty being screened from Hellfire (Bukhari 0:0, 23:11, 23:12, 23:13, 23:133) is a prime example. This provides immense solace and hope for grieving parents, framing their loss within a divine economy of reward and mercy. The Prophet's own prayer for the Ansar and their children illustrates the spiritual value of interceding for the young and the blessings that flow to families who serve Allah's cause.
Children also serve as living reminders of Allah's creative power and intricate design. The Prophet's explanation regarding the causes of a child's resemblance to its parents (Bukhari 60:4, 63:163, 65:7) delves into the mysteries of creation, revealing Allah's meticulous planning even in the most minute biological details. The supplication for righteous offspring, making them comfort to our eyes, reflects the desire for children who will embody good character and devotion, thereby becoming a source of ongoing reward and a lasting legacy.
In summary, children in Islam are much more than mere inheritors of lineage; they are pure souls born in fitra, a sacred trust from Allah, and a profound responsibility for parents. The Quran and Sunnah meticulously outline their inherent value, the comprehensive duties of parents, the imperative for their protection, and the legal frameworks safeguarding their rights. This holistic approach ensures that children are nurtured physically, emotionally, and spiritually, growing into individuals who contribute positively to society and perpetuate the legacy of faith, while also serving as a means for their parents' spiritual growth and reward.